|Granny I'd Like To.... What?|
I was an embarrassing fool, shimmying like a geriatric hamster on speed, but luckily the teen has got passed her "Mum, stop it will you?" stage and now encourages me to let out my inner goof ball. The teen, she is a goof ball too. Is it wrong to "shake it like a Polaroid picture" together? Or to try (and fail) to do the "running man?"
What's wrong with attempting to robot dance with a fourteen year old? Is it bad that my favourite dance move is stolen from Johnny Bravo? Stick your butt out and pump those arms! I have sprung that move on the whole of Southsea, from Little Johnny Russells to The Wedgewood Rooms and everyone finds it funny. But I can't help feeling that I am getting to the point in my life where it is just a little bit "sad." I don't want to be a muttony mother and so I have abandoned band t-shirts - because the teen has started wearing them, but I still love fashion.
I spent my younger years trying to look older (damn those youth preserving Asian genes) as I really did feel quite ashamed when people would say, "You don't look old enough to have two children." Even though, back in Sarawak, twenty one is not such a young age to have been settled down. A generation ago, it wouldn't have been a problem either, but the other mother's I was networking with when the older two were born were at least a decade older than me. People made judgements, I know they did, because I did and still do too. So, I've always had to work really extra hard to bring the children up nicely even though I just wanted to let them run wild. It worked, they both remember to say "please and thank you " most of the time. And they are both recipients of academic scholarships. The teen recently received an honorary Arthur NockScholarship in recognition of her outstanding academic progress during Years 7 and 8 of senior school. I just hope she keeps it up and that I don't embarrass her.
|I'm a moody Scene kiddddd|
But now when people say "Oh, you don't look old enough to have such grown up children," the paranoia has crept in. I am sure they are saying it out of politeness because they think I am dressed like a wannabe wacky "scene" kid and am sporting more make up than Jodie Marsh's dressing table in an attempt to look younger.
|Molecular structures really get me going|
There is a very fine line between cool mum and sad mum. I don't want to be either, I just want to be a good Mum, who has a good relationship with all my children. That is the hardest challenge of all, to be a friend, but to be firm and fair. The best way to do that is to surround your children in love, give them plenty of encouragement and try to help them to empathise with other people. Actually, no, that is not the hardest challenge of all, the hardest challenge of all is trying to get a kid with Asperger's to show some empathy!